It’s difficult to be excited about life, and all the wonderful experiences it has to offer, when you’re also deathly afraid of life. (and all the terrifying experiences it has to offer.)
You see, in order to try new things, see new places, meet new people, one needs to be brave. And braveness is something I’ve always been a little short of.
Through very extensive research (I spoke to two people and listened to a podcast- I’m basically a journalist now) I’ve actually found the answer. (Rejoice, introverts and hermits alike!) All you need to do is:
1. Become an actor/actress.
Oh yes. Acting has served me very well in life so far. How to act? Choose a character. (One very similar to yourself – only a little more outgoing and totally unafraid.) Give them a name if you have to. (I think Sasha Fierce might be taken.) Embody this character’s courage whenever you need it. Feel it pulsing deep in your bones and use it to take life firmly by the cajones. (Haha. I’m thrilled that I managed to work “cajones” into this piece of writing.) Sometimes you just have to do a little less over-thinking, and fake that shit until you make it.
2. Surround yourself with go-getters.
Oprah once said “Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher.” and Oprah’s always right. (Except for the few thousand times she had Dr Phil on her show. Let’s be honest.) There is nothing better than being around a person who is more courageous than you are. Not only do they inspire you to do/be better, they help shove you gently (or aggressively) in the right direction.
3. Take baby steps.
I’m not going to stand here as a bonafide introvert/top notch scaredy cat and urge you to suddenly take up sky-diving as a hobby. (Though, if that is your dream. I love your enthusiasm. Do some research and go for it.) Tiny victories hold as much gravitas as any other. If you’re deathly shy, but somehow find the courage to start a conversation with a stranger- then I salute you. You deserve a pat on the back, because goals are different for everyone. We all move at different paces, with different handicaps. No sense in comparing yourself to the next person, because at the end of the day, when you look back on your life you will only be interested in your own memories and victories, not someone else’s.
Now that I’ve made the conscious decision to live my life a little more fully – are you going to tell that uncertainty where to get off, and join me?